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9/22/2014

It's Not About the Steak: How News Reports Miss the Mark When They Report the "Reasons" for Domestic Violence Incidents 

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By Christine Murray, See the Triumph Co-Founder

One of my simple pleasures in life is reading the newspaper every morning. I love getting up to date about the news of the day, learning about events and happenings in my community and beyond, and getting a daily dose of information about the important issues happening in the world around us.

And yet, there are times when my daily newspaper reading turns into disappointment, frustration, and anger over upsetting news about injustices in the world around us. As one who cares deeply about ending intimate partner violence, some of my biggest frustrations come up when reading the paper and seeing stories about new cases of domestic violence. Every new story simply breaks my heart, because I believe that every person has a right to safe and healthy relationships.

Beyond my frustrations when I read about cases of domestic violence, I, like many professionals who work to address domestic violence, get frustrated by the way that this issue is often covered in the media.

For example, I remember one morning a few years ago reading about a man who had beat his female partner, which the newspaper stated happened because she didn’t cook his steak the way he liked it. If you could have read my mind at the moment I read that, you would have heard it screaming, “It’s not about the steak!!!!!!!!” In my view, the reason that man beat his partner had nothing to do with the way she cooked his steak, and it had everything to do with power and control.

If you think that this story about the steak is an isolated incident, think again. Check out these examples of other “reasons” that media outlets gave for incidents of violence in the past month or so. I’ve bolded the alleged reasons for the violence in the list below:

  • From The Citizen’s Voice in Wilkes-Barre, PA: “An Edwardsville man punched his wife in the head after she took his dog to the SPCA, police said.”
  • From The New Pittsburgh Courier: “A Florida husband was arrested for choking his wife following an argument over the lack of leftover fried chicken.”
  • From the Herald-Journal in South Carolina: “An incident report from the Spartanburg County Sheriff's Office states Lawter, his wife and 14-year-old stepdaughter were driving Sept. 5 when his wife asked to stop to use the bathroom. The request spawned an argument and Lawter spit into his wife's face, pulled her hair and punched the stepdaughter who tried to intervene, the reports state. He also punched the wife in the head several times.”
  • From Lehigh Valley Live in Pennsylvania: “Tara Gavornik told police she and Figueroa started arguing Tuesday morning when he criticized her parenting skills, and when the argument escalated Figueroa started punching her, records say.”
  • From the New York Daily News: “Police say Shaun D. Walsh became angry when he was confronted over his meth habit, punched his ex-girlfriend and chased her with a pitchfork.”
  • From the Athens Banner-Herald in Georgia: “Frederick Jermaine Woods, 39, of Sycamore Lane, was arrested early Tuesday morning after he allegedly punched his girlfriend and prevented her from leaving their home, Athens-Clarke County police said. The victim alleged that Woods had been drinking and he punched her in the face when he became upset at the way she had cooked some pizza, according to police.”
  • From 48 WAFF in Huntsville, Alabama: “Florence man chokes girlfriend for waking him up, police say”
  • And from the Sandusky Register in Ohio: “They found Taylor in the room with blood on his lip and shirt. He also had a red mark on his arm, police said, but told the officers his wife had too much to drink and was causing problems. His wife told authorities Taylor is a very jealous person and he became upset when he said she was flirting with a man at a bar.”

And sometimes, reporters make a point of noting the lack of a “reason” for the violence, as in this story from the Palm Beach Post in Florida: “He reportedly was driving the vehicle when, for reasons unspecified, he punched his wife on the side of her face and neck. When the couple got close to home, Passerelli’s wife got out and walked to their apartment.”

It’s natural for people to want to try and explain why violence occurs. And, reporters have a responsibility to state the known facts of the stories they report. However, reporting overly simplistic reasons for abuse is problematic for at least two important reasons.

First, by trying to identify these situational causes of domestic violence incidents, reporters trivialize the violence and inadvertently misinform readers about the dynamics of abusive relationships. By confusing the real reason that abuse occurs--because one partner is trying to control the other--the wrong message gets sent to the community and perpetuates the stereotype that domestic violence occurs as a result of a unique fight or one person’s inability to manage his or her anger.

Second, by reporting on victims’ actions before a violent incident occurred, media stories imply that the victim may somehow have been to blame for the violence they experienced. These stories suggest that, had the victims just cooked the steak properly, not asked to use the bathroom on a long car ride, or not ate the fried chicken leftovers, the violence would not have occurred. Professionals who work to address domestic violence know, however, that the violence almost certainly still would have occurred, there just would have been a different triggering incident that set it off. Again, the abuse is not about the content of a fight...it is about power and control.

Of course, we need ongoing media coverage about the issue of domestic violence to continue to raise awareness in the community and demonstrate the scope of the problem. But what if, instead of saying that violence occurred because of the specific incident that triggered the reported act of violence, reporters used language like the following: “The perpetrator hurt the victim because they were trying to hold power over their partner”?

Now, I recognize that this is probably an overly idealistic vision for how the media will report cases of domestic violence. However, in order to fully end the stigma surrounding intimate partner violence, it’s important for the media to report on these cases responsibly. Such responsible reporting will help to educate the public about the issue and accurately depict the dynamics of abusive relationships.


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